Dancing through Life.

I gave a lot of thought if I should bring this topic to the blog.

I do prefer to talk about positive situations, but every now and then something not that great also happens and there no point of pretending it didn't.

Sometimes I feel I attract problematic people, people full of bad energies who just throw their own resentments and frustrations on me. 

I believe most of the times I can deal with those people pretty well to the point I even stay close to them. 

I realise most of them are not conscious of their behaviour and apart from that I can consider them good people. Other times that doesn't happen like that and, sadly, I get very disappointed.

This time it happened at work. I have this colleague who I have considered a friend up until a few days ago.

It was so bad that at one moment I was apologizing for something I had nothing to do with and I was actually feeling bad and sorry for my colleague.

Only after giving a very deep thought on that I came to realise that it was not my fault that that person was not feeling confident about the work done or even that someone gave me as an example to help with that colleague's work.

I had noticed that my colleague was distant and barely talked to me but it could be something going on or that I said something without noticing I was saying the wrong thing.

But no. It all came to the conclusion that that person was feeling with low self-confidence and somehow the one to blame was me.

I feel sorry that people can be like that and damage good relationship, as the one I believed we had.

Everyone is human and can feel jealous of other people but I think that when it comes to a point that they blame someone else for their own failures or even wish negative things to others, then that people can not be good or good to be around.

I feel sad how this situation turned out but I started to put a lot more distance between us and decided to see that person as just a colleague who don't need to know anything about my personal life or even my achievements at work.

I started this post by saying that I feel I attract negative people because every now and then someone like this appears in my Life.

Anyway, time to move on and let this negative feeling behind.

Have a great week!  

Speed dating.

Yes, I did try a new experience.

I have to say that it was much better than I was expecting.

But it was not something I felt right for me.

I did have fun and don't regret going for one second.

Starting from the least attractive points:

- too many people - my energy was gone by the time I finished talking with all 20 guys about more or less the same topics;

- some veterans in this type of meetings;

- guys who acted like only girls had to impress and made no effort;

- 4 minutes actually looked like 1 but energy lost as it were 30; 

- one or two guys forgot to take a shower.

Positive points:

- there were some handsome guys;

- there were some exceptions to "same old topics";

- It was a new experience;

- the place was really nice;

- the music was top.

If I will go again? Maybe one more time but with a different age bracket (this was 25 - 35) - to see if it is more interesting.

If I would recommend?

Off course. A new experience is always good even if it is to know that we don't want that, so go, try and let me know how was your experience.

Good night!

Anniversary.

A year ago I was in the stage fighting my first boxing match.

One of those things that we are not even thinking about but suddenly everything seems to lead you to it.

My fighting classes at the gym and then an email inviting to the first White Collar Fighting Club match.

My first thought was "nahhh" but then the idea kept growing until it became "why not?".

To make it more appealing the money raised would be for a good cause and it felt like an opportunity that was worth taking.

Today I am very happy that I accepted the challenge and went for it and even managed to take the medal home.

Yesterday it was the 1 year anniversary and to celebrate it, the White Collar Fight Club organised a new show of matches (7th) and I was invited. 

Tempted to go, but at the same time thinking that was a closed chapter, so I decided not to attend.

I have great memories of that night and the from the all process - 8 weeks of training with wonderful people - and I will always advise anyone to participate in one, it is an amazing feeling and even better when you win.

So if you ever thought about it but are not sure, just go for it, you will never regret it.

Now, I'm on to another challenge for next year.

And you, what is your next challenge?

Empathy.

Sometimes I feel I am not able to show other people the empathy I feel towards them.

I do say over and over again that I am a weird person, but most people take it as a joke and don't see that I am telling the truth.

Today I felt it again with my cousin.

It seemed the words I was saying didn't mean to her what I was trying to say and I got the feeling she felt attacked which was never what I meant.

So today I feel a bit sad. We talked about it and everything seems fine now, but if there's something I have learned is that once the words are said there's no going back.

Maybe I said it with wrong tone or in my head it made perfect sense and nothing bad but once it came out she heard something totally different.

I know she's in a very complicated situation, that she is trying her best and doesn't need any more pressure to make things worst.

Nothing else should matter now than make everything we can to make the situation easier and better and I should always be the first person to understand it as many times I was lucky enough to find amazing good people who gave the hand I needed. I am truly grateful for all the help and shoulders I got over the years.

Hopefully tomorrow it will be a good day. Specially to her.

Good night!